Gossip and rumors can create a toxic environment. This week, if your friends start talking behind someone’s back, remove yourself and go do something else. Let your friends know that you think bad-mouthing people is a waste of time and you don’t want to be involved. You can try phrases like, “Why are we spreading rumors about her? Let’s talk about something more interesting,” or “Come on, this is ridiculous. Don’t we have better things to do?” or “I’m sorry guys, I’m not comfortable talking about her while she’s not here.” You may shock your friends by calling them out, but in time, they may just thank you.
Shanahan for Ojai 